Movie Review: “Wakanda Forever”

****THIS REVIEW WILL CONTAIN SPOILERS!!****

I was able to see “Wakanda Forever” the weekend. I was excited to see this movie finally released this weekend. I had to clear my mind of what I personally wanted to and watch the movie without any preconceived notions. I was glad I did this.

One thing I love about any action movie is it having good special effects. This movie has amazing special effects. I had to keep reminding myself to focus on the entire movie. The movie invoked a range of emotions starting from the very beginning as they paid tribute to Chadwick Boseman. If you are an emotional person you will find yourself crying a bit. If you’re not, you may still cry, so be prepared. This movie takes you on a further roller coaster of feelings. You may feel shocked and even angry throughout the movie. My most impactful feeling was proud. I was proud of Shuri’s finally coming into who she really is by “showing them who she really is” when dealing with Namor.

While I originally expected Shuri to take on the Black Panther mantel a little earlier in the movie, but I understand why it was later in the movie. Now, I didn’t read the comics, but I understand a lot of people are upset by her becoming the Black Panther. Me, personally, I’m okay with it. It’s okay to make reasonable adjustments from the comics. But that’s just my humble opinion about it.

I really appreciated how they introduced Namor to the MCU and the movie itself. It was very climatic to me. Let me very honest here. I didn’t know who Namor is. I did research him a bit after and it really pleased me with how they bought him in. I also appreciated this ‘truce’ at the end with Shuri and Wakanda. Do I like him? I don’t really know that yet. I need bit more information to build with. I understand his need to protect, and even though it wasn’t right how he went about to protect his people, I appreciated the determination to protect his people/family.

Angela Basset as Queen Ramonda was a beast. She did such an amazing job in the movie that I agree with social media when they she deserves an Oscar. She showed power and the exact emotions needed to make the movie rise to an even higher level. She showed that you can be classy and powerful at the same time. For me, that was a quality that could be adapted in real life as we make moves to grow.

I appreciated the growth in all the characters in the movie. There’s no lack in options for amazing characters to pick as a favorite, outside of Shuri and Ramonda. Even as good as the movie is, I do feel like it could have been trimmed a bit more. Maybe 20-30 minutes of unnecessary information. Still, it didn’t take away from the impact of the movie.

Overall Overview. Great movie. Great special effects. Amazing acting. Good story line. A touch too long.
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How I Reset My Mindset

There’s always a point you brain is in overdrive and you can’t think straight or figure out the next step. At that point it’s time to step back and do a mindset reset. Depending on the situation and you personally this can vary greatly. What I’ll share are a few things that work for me personally through trial and error.

Over the years one of the things that help me the most is sleep. Normally when I get to feeling anxious, overwhelmed and frustrated is because I haven’t been getting enough sleep and it’s starting to catch up with me. At that point nothing will go right and I also become a total klutz. I start hurting myself. The last time it happened I bumped my toe on the table and the same toe one the bed frame. I had both doors open on the refrigerator putting up food and bumped my head on the freezer door, then followed that up by bumping my head on the wall as I literally fell in the bed from exhaustion. Needless to say I went straight to sleep after texting my mom. How I didn’t have a concussion, I don’t know. What I do know is that sleep was my awesome friend. A great nap and an even better nights rest did wonders for my thought process. So, yes, sleep refreshes and resets the mind.

Another thing that works for me is prayer. Not just a quick, help me prayer, but a nice long deep prayer. During this time I express my concerns and feelings about what I’m going through. When I through my burden onto Him I feel so much better and can always think better and clearer too. I typically sit and meditate on how I can work in harmony with what I just prayed for.

Sometimes I need to just get away and traveling isn’t feasible at that moment. So I what I do at that point is jump into reading. It has to be a good book though. Something where I can enter the world of the characters and exit my own for a little while. This also helps me do a mind reset too. This is better than a movie for me.

The other thing I do is write. Sometimes I write about what I feel and what’s going on, It could be in the form of a poem, a short story, a blog or just random journal entry. Typically either of those routes will help reset my mindset. This can also help write something for one of my books. So this tactic is a win-win for me.

Those are my main avenues I use to reset my mindset. There are other ways that work too, but those are the ones I use most often because they typically work the best. That’s not to say it may not change in the future because things change as we grow and move into different phases of our lives.

I’d love to hear from you and what you do to do a mind reset.

What About Your Friends

Just an FYI, this blog will have a range of emotions and feelings, mostly venting. Afterall my blog is “Lets Talk Life” and this is life. So today I want to take a moment to discuss friendship. The real friends and the fake friends. Yes, I know I’ve spoken on this before, but the actions and words I’ve seen over the past week has shown me we need to have this discussion again. I’m not angry. Okay, not any more. I’ve calmed down a lot before I started this.

I’m just like everyone else, not perfect. So I don’t claim to be the perfect friend. I have moments of being selfish and just want to whine. Sometimes I don’t communicate enough. Sometimes, I just don’t care. Okay, that’s been more so since the pandemic. When I say I don’t care, I’m not saying I don’t care about my real friends, their feelings and what’s going on with them. When I say I don’t care, I’m talking about fake friends attitudes and what they THINK I may owe them and/or suppose to act. When I say you’ve been demoted from friend to associate to acquaintance to ignore to block, do not be surprised. Some of you may have dropped and don’t even realize it because you’re just that selfish and self-centered.

I’m a firm believer in letting your yes mean yes, and your no mean no. Keep your word. I completely get it if an emergency comes up. If you change your mind, be up front about it. For instance, my REAL friend said she couldn’t go on the cruise with me and told me why even though she didn’t have to. And she told me early enough so I can adjust my plans. On the other hand, you say you’re going to get something on a specific day and time and you DON’T. Not only do you not get it or deliver it, you ignore the messages, but you are posting on social media for three days and not once do you contact me. Yep, a problem. Keep your word.

When I say I’m matching you with the same energy I receive, believe it. If I notice I’m always imitating a conversation with you unless you need something, guess what? I’ll will stop being the first to speak unless I need something. When I start a conversation I like to be courteous. You know, a greeting, a ‘how are you?” Again, if you can’t do it, I can’t either. If you can’t hold a conversation without me pulling teeth, there won’t be a conversation. Trust me, with all of these, you’ve already been demoted. Which level you are, depends on you. I will not chase you or force you to talk to me. There’s no need for you to be invited over, no need to meet you anywhere, no need to visit you. I’m over it.

When it comes to my real friends, I need to depend on you, like you can depend on me. I lost fake friends because they didn’t understand the pain from my surgery and couldn’t just hang out because I was scared I wouldn’t be able to get up out of a soft chair. I lost what I realized were fake friends because they got upset I wouldn’t buy their product (that I didn’t need), but I shared it with others. Yet, they couldn’t buy my product or share my posts? I may not need a product, or can always afford their product, but I’m going to find a way to support them, even if it’s just sharing. That’s just who I am.

When it comes to true friendship, you have some you talk to daily and others less often. The one thing that’s the same is the communication and connection. When we talk it’s like we never have things to run out of talking about. If we are quiet, it’s not awkward at all. It’s comfortable. I have some amazing friends that I only talk to on social media until I visit them. Guess what, it’s like we always talk. I’m cool with that. I don’t expect the same thing from each person because that would unrealistic. What I expect is a friend to act like a friend. Don’t think the random message equals I owe you a spot in my life, because it doesn’t. I look at it just like it is a random message.

So there you have it. My random vent and again explanation how to be a real friend verse a fake friend. If you have to wonder which side you fall on, you probably fall under the fake friends. I’m just saying. If it walk like a duck, quack like a duck, it’s a duck. You want real friends, be a friend. I personally understand and get it when you want a demotion and will act accordingly.

4th Quarter Goals

We are currently halfway through the first month of the fourth quarter. Hopefully you have your goals for the last quarter of the ready and actively working on those goals so you can end your year with bang. Ending the year on a high note can have you starting 2023 off on the right foot. Have you started working on your goals? What are some of those goals you want to accomplish these last few months? Always remember it’s not too late to start new goals or finish old goals.

Here are some of my goals to wrap up the year so I can start the year fosuced and ready to go. Of course this is just a few of my goals. I have a list I keep on all my devices and some on the calander so I can get those reminders. I also have a great friend I can share those goals with to ensure I’m working on those goals.

  • Complete and schedule blogs for this year.
  • Write out a suggested list of blogs for next year.
  • Complete at minimum 3 more books in full.
  • Write at least 4 new pieces of poetry.
  • Complete my list of themes and flyers for my photography mini sessions.
  • Schedule jewelry 3 jewelry parties for the first quarter.
  • Complete October squat challenge.
  • Increase my Infinity hoop workout to 30 minutes.
  • Donate 2 boxes of books to the local library.

There you have it. I shared some business and personal goals I have. What are a few of yours?

How I Relax

We all have very stressful moments in our lives.  We may not have stress everyday or all the time, but we have it.  It’s okay to have stress, but it’s about how we deal with those stressful moments. Everyone should have a way to release their stress.  Of course we would prefer it not be in a violet way.  I want to share with you some of the ways I deal with stress.  Remember this is me, not you.  You need to find what works for you.

  1. Reading – This is always a great go to for me.  What I read varies depending on my mood and what has me stressed. Typically when I read I’m all the way in the book if the author did a good job.
  2. Write – Writing allows me to say exactly what and how I’m feeling.
  3. Play a game on my phone – Shunting that doesn’t require thought is always best. Leave my mind blank.
  4. Craft Projects – Too many to name here. It could be something with my cricut or just painting.
  5. Sleep – This should have been #1. Enough said.
  6. Call a friend – Having someone to talk is always a great help.
  7. DND – There’s moments when not talking to anyone is best. I’ll quickly put my phone on DND if necessary.

This is a few ways I personally deal with stress. Just remember we are all different and will need to deal with it accordingly. How do you deal with stress. How do you relax??

My Favorite TikTikoers

If you are on Tiktok then I’m sure you have your favorite people you follow for many different reasons. Today, I’ll share some of my favorites!

  • @grooveynannygranny
  • @khaby.lame
  • @ryzehendricksmusic
  • @chef_joely
  • @garyowencom
  • @buttonpoetry
  • @thevibewithky
  • @official_eudy
  • @mrhoward365
  • @hamiltonmusical

These have a wide range of content that typically makes me laugh or just thoughtful content. Who do you follow that others should check out?

Winter Olympics 2022

Figure Skating

I enjoy watching most parts of the Olympics,  but Figure Skating is my favorite.  All forms,  men’s and women’s figure skating.  This year had more drama than I ever recall happening.  Before I get started,  please understand this is not a political or a racial post.

Everything that happened on the final night can squarely be blamed on three groups of people. First,  Kamila Valieva, her family and her entire coaching staff. Second,  the Olympics committee. Third,  would be the media,  as always. 

We all understand to some degree the pressures of participating in competition.  Some on a higher level than others.  Still,  everyone understands the rules of drugs. It doesn’t matter your race or nationality. YOU KNOW. You also understand the consequences.  No Kamila was not the first,  and not the first representing Russia or ROC. No, Sha’Carri Richardson was not the first and I’m sure she won’t be the last either.  If you don’t know the rules to be an Olympian,  then you don’t deserve it. If you know it and do it anyway,  you don’t deserve it either. It’s that simple. 

I understand she’s 15. Guess what? She’s not the only 15 year old to ever participate in the Olympics,  and surely not figure skating.  So that excuse is a non excuse in my eyes.  Do we need to make a list?

Then they had the nerve to quote her mental health! Are you serious? Those falls she exhibited was not because she couldn’t do it (another topic), it was because we were in her head. The media was in her head. The looking down on her was in her head.  How is a 15 year old supposed to handle that when we,  yes myself included,  wanted her to lose? If you really wanted to protect her, she wouldn’t have been put in that situation.

The thing that made me mad the most was her selfish attitude.  I know the team staff was to blame for babying her. Yet here is her teammate who you’re supposed to be close to, winning the gold and standing by herself,  alone for a long while. Why? Because she fell and didn’t medal? Then you’re okay with participating and trying to medal which in turn not only dim the Olympics as a whole,  but your fellow teammates wouldn’t get a medal ceremony. You would have been okay with that? Again,  selfish.  And again, I put that blame on her family and training team.

There’s so much wrong with the staff.  Even though I didn’t want her to win,  the harsh treatment right after coming off the ice was ridiculous. Again all of this could have been avoided to begin with.

Even today we see news about athletes being stripped of their medals from the summer Tokyo events. Help me understand what makes this privileged Olympian, want to be medalist is so much different from all the others before her? Why does she not need to live up to the standards of everyone else? How much money were you paid to overturn that suspension?

No, I’m not an Olympian, nor have I ever desired to be one.  What I understand is sports, sportsmanship and how to follow rules. It’s that simple.  Follow the rules or don’t participate.  If don’t follow the rules,  you suffer the consequences.  Most of us are taught that at a young age. Like toddler age. Am I glad she fell? No. Am I glad she didn’t win? Yes. Suck it up.

Assumption…Based On What?

What does it mean to assume or have an assumption about something? An assumption is something that you assume to be the case, even without proof.

A pet peeve I have is when some one assumes to know what’s going in someone’s life without asking. I love my best friend, but I would never assume she’s doing this or that. Not even sleep. After all, things change.

Someone assumed I was on medical leave again when they didn’t see me at Wal-Mart anymore. The reality is that I no longer work for the company. All that person had to do was ask. I don’t always follow the normal thing. Granted a large majority of the population sleeps at night. Still, one can never be 100% sure. After all we do have a graveyard shift.

Recently people tend to assume I’m so busy, or I’m having a bad day. The truth of the matter is that I wasn’t all that busy nor was I having a bad day. Just because YOU’RE busy or YOU’RE having a bad day, don’t project your feelings my way. Granted I do have a fairly full schedule, I make time for recreation. It may not be as much as before Covid or my knee surgeries, but I get it in. I do it without risking getting Covid again or taking it to my family.

It’s never the right thing to assume your family and/or friend is or isn’t anything. Just ask. It’s not that hard. When you make those assumptions you make yourself look foolish. So take a moment to ask next time. They may just surprise you.

Life Changing Moment

We all typically have moments in our lives that define which road we are going to take. Sometimes we make the choice on our own or we may have help that’s out of our control.

I had to look back in my past hard to find a time that I found to be a life changing moment. I found a time when I hated life so bad I wanted to end my life. Even then it was more me just disappearing and not letting anyone know where I was. I can remember it very clearly. My Literary husband reminds me that my writing alter ego at that time was “Babydoll”. Babydoll was a bit rough, even a lil thuggish.

Back then I was filled with so much anger. Arguments with parents, a short lived wicked marriage, and scandalous so called friends was my life. I had some great friends along the way. Finances were a mess. I was at the point that I just didn’t care. If I died I felt no one would even miss me. Knew I could end it then. Had the tools and the means. That was my one split second I wanted to end my life. However that really didn’t get past the 5 minute mark. Still, I did think long and hard on just getting ghost and leaving. Just start over where I knew no one. I had got to the point where I was choosing locations and everything.

Then I stopped and thought about it again. Even if they wouldn’t miss me, I’d miss my family. Couldn’t see me missing my niece grow up. Now I have a nephew I wouldn’t even know about. If something had happened to my parents or sisters and I wasn’t there I’m pretty sure I’d have a ton of regrets. That’s something I never want. So I made a decision after careful prayer. I will make things work for me. I made some life changing decisions. Changed my association drastically. I focused more on me and making me happy. Put a lot more focus on my careers and enjoying my family. Got rid of dead weight that wasn’t serving a purpose except holding me back.

Now here I am in 2022 enjoying my life. Don’t misunderstand me. I still had ups and downs, but that’s all a part of life. I’ve seen my niece and nephew grow up. They continue to impress me. Any time with them lightens up my day. I’ve experienced life and throughly enjoyed most of it. Meet some awesome people over the years, and made some great friendships. I’m very glad I didn’t end my life or disappear.

We all have those life changing moments. It’s how we deal with them that define who are and where we are headed.