50 Things Every Young Lady Should Know… Week 9

WEEK 9

“ACCEPTING AN APOLOGY”

YOU DO:

Say “that’s okay” when someone apologizes to you.

YOU DON’T:

Have to immediately give them a hug and act as if nothing happened.

WHY:

You have a right to feel hurt or angry when someone does something careless or hurtful.  Sometimes it helps to take a little breather after the apology is offered and accepted.

YOU DO:

Say “I appreciate your apology” when someone apologizes to you.

YOU DON’T:

Say, “I appreciate your apology…but you are really a jerk/you should have been more careful/you really made me feel terrible…don’t do it again.”

WHY:

Replying to an apology with a qualifier is not really accepting an apology.

YOU DO:

Forgive someone when they have done something careless or hurtful to you.

YOU DON’T:

Forget it if they do the same thing over and over.

WHY:

Being a lady doesn’t mean allowing people to take advantage of you and your good nature.  If the same thing happens more than once, it’s time to sit down and talk it over.

 

  • A lady accepts an apology without conditions.
  • A lady does not keep reminding her brother, her friend, or her mother of their transgression once the apology is accepted.
  • A lady knows how to forgive and in time, forget.
  • A lady does not hold a grudge.
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50 Things Every Young Lady Should Know… Week 8

WEEK 8

“MAKING AN APOLOGY”

YOU DO:

Say “I’m sorry” without adding a “but”.

YOU DON’T:

Say, “I’m sorry I knocked into the table and broke your favorite piece of pottery, but you should have put it on a higher shelf if you liked it so much.”  You day say, “I’m sorry I didn’t include you with the others, but I was in a hurry.”  You don’t say, “I’m sorry I forgot to let the dog out, but I wanted to watch the end of the show and he should have let me know he needed to go out.”

WHY:

Adding an excuse to what you did or didn’t do means you are not taking responsibility for your actions, and that makes your apology pretty worthless.

YOU DO:

Say I’m sorry and_____” if you need to say more than “I’m Sorry” to make the situation right.  “I’m sorry I was careless and broke the bowl.  Can I help buy a new one?”

YOU DON’T:

Assume that “I’m sorry” is always enough to make amends.
WHY:

Because sometimes you need to back your words up with action.

  • A lady doesn’t delay her apology hoping the situation will just go away.  It won’t, and the sooner you say “I’m sorry,” the sooner everyone feels better.
  • A lady doesn’t expect to be rewarded for saying “I’m Sorry” but is grateful when her apology is graciously accepted.
  • A lady doesn’t assume an apology is the end of the situation, but she understands it’s the first step toward making things right.